The Friendzy Program of Social-Emotional Learning

St. Joseph Catholic School will begin our third year of faith-based social emotional learning with the Friendzy program. This interactive program, designed specifically for Catholic elementary school students, complements our social-emotional learning curriculum which explores the ways in which our Catholic faith, actions, and prayer help our students to develop strong social skills and deeper relationships with God and each other. We will continue to learn about Catholic virtues and saints each month in our counseling classes; and we will also work on building healthy relationships, developing empathy and strengthening our school community.

Friendzy will once again be taught by Mrs. Henry during weekly classroom counseling lessons. Each week your studnet will learn about God's design for healthy relationships, and be introduced to core competencies and skills that develop self-awareness, self-management, responsible decision making, social awareness and relationship tools. Research has shown that by combining these lessons with academic development students improve academic performance, attitudes and relationships with peers.   Parents play a key role in helping our SJS students to learn and practice these important skills! 

The global pandemic brought a heightened awareness to the importance of mental well-being and the need for strong social skills and emotional management. Now more than ever our students need to be equipped to navigate the uncertainty in their lives with a deeper sense of faith and community. Social skills such as self-awareness, responsible decision-making, self-management and relationship-building are some of the tools that make this possible.

As part of this program, each SJS student in grade K-5 will receive a student workbook that will be used in class. Parents will receive updates about each lesson and suggestions for ways to support social skills development at home. That information can be found on this page. 

We will begin the year by reviewing social emotional skills. Our Friendzy Program will kick off in October. 

 2022-2023 School Year

November Catchphrase

Listen Up!

Dear Parents, 

This month we are teaching the students the catchphrase LISTEN UP! In this unit we will learn about Whole Body Listening; learning to listen with our whole selves so that others feel seen, heard, and valued. Our Scripture verses this month remind us that when we listen to the Word of God we learn about God's love for us and His plan for our lives.

Deuteronomy 6:4-5:  “Hear, O Israel! The Lord is our God, the Lord is one! You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might.”

Proverbs 2:2:  “Tune your ears to wisdom, and concentrate on understanding.”
 

 Whole Body Listening is a concept we will learn in this lesson to help focus and actively listen with more than just our ears. It involves ALL of these parts of our body: ears, eyes, brain, mouth, heart, hands, and feet.
 

Here are the main points in Unit 2:

1. Listening is a whole-body activity. Turn your body toward the person speaking and use your eyes to SEE the person’s expressions and posture, your ears to TAKE IN what they are saying, your heart to RELATE to whatever emotions they are communicating so that you can RESPOND with wisdom and love, in words if necessary.

 

2. Listening can keep peace. When we are quick to listen and slow to speak, we can be sure we are understanding others more clearly before we jump to conclusions or have misunderstandings that lead to hurt feelings and anger. Wait to speak until you are sure you understand.

 

3. Listening demands good questions. Some people need to be drawn out. Some people need help making their point. Questions like, “tell me more” and “how does that make you feel?” can be powerful to help people feel loved and safe in friendship. Be curious about your friends.

 

4. Wise words heal hearts. Affirming words that follow active listening can heal hearts and build friendships. When we “concentrate on understanding”, we will respond to our friends with wisdom and encouragement that builds friendships and changes the culture of our schools.

G.E.A.R. Up to Listen Up!

G—Get Quiet: Turning off the external noise of media creates space to focus on quieting down the internal conversations happening in our own minds.

E—Engage: Be present in conversations by actively listening with your whole body. When appropriate, engage, and ask questions. Practice patience, wait for your turn to talk, and be careful not to interrupt.

A—Accept: Actively listening is a way we accept the gift of what others are sharing. Let’s be friends who accept the gift of other’s stories, receiving them with kindness and respect.

R—Respond: Responding with whole-body listening communicates we are engaged, we care, and we’re listening.

 

ASK THOUGHTFUL QUESTIONS
Next time you have your eyes glued to a screen and begin to tune out the world around you, consider pausing and asking yourself these helpful questions to practice the skills of self-awareness and social awareness in your home:

> What is happening around me?

> Who is present in the room that I need to be aware of?

> Do I need to pay attention to them?

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Estimados padres: 

Durante este tiempo estamos enseñando a los estudiantes la frase clave: ¡ESCUCHA! En esta unidad aprenderemos sobre la escucha de todo el cuerpo; aprendiendo a escuchar con todo nuestro ser para que los demás se sientan vistos, escuchados y valorados.

Versos Claves:

Deuteronomio 6:4-5:  “¡Escucha, Israel!. ¡El Señor es nuestro Dios, el Señor es uno!. Amarás al Señor, tu Dios, con todo tu corazón y con toda tu alma y con toda tus fuerzas.”

Proverbios 2:2:  “Afina tu oído a la sabiduría, y concéntrate en el entendimiento.”

¿Sabes lo que implica la escucha de todo el cuerpo?. La escucha de todo el cuerpo es un concepto que aprenderemos en esta lección para ayudarnos a concentrarnos y escuchar activamente con algo más que nuestros oídos. Involucra TODAS estas partes de nuestro cuerpo: oído, ojos, cerebro, boca, corazón, manos, y pies. Podemos aprender a ser oyentes de cuerpo completo a través de Friendzy.

Estos son los puntos principales en la Unidad 2:

1. Escuchar es una actividad de todo el cuerpo. Gire su cuerpo hacía la persona que habla y use sus ojos para VER las expresiones y la postura de la persona, sus oídos para ACEPTAR lo que están diciendo, su corazón para RELACIONARSE con cualquier emoción que ellos estén comunicando, para que pueda RESPONDER con sabiduría y amor, en palabras si es necesario.
2. Escuchar puede mantener la paz. Cuando somos rápidos para escuchar y lentos para hablar, podemos estar seguros que estamos entendiendo a los demás más claramente antes de sacar conclusiones precipitadas o tener malos entendidos que nos llevan a herir sentimientos y enojarnos. Espere para hablar hasta que esté seguro de haber entendido.

 

3. Escuchar exige buenas preguntas. Algunas personas necesitan ser sacadas. Algunas personas necesitan ayuda para expresar su punto de vista. Preguntas como “Dime más” y “¿Cómo te hace sentir eso?” pueden ser poderosas y ayudar a las personas a sentirse amadas y seguras en la amistad. Sé curioso acerca de tus amigos.

 

4. Las palabras sabias sanan los corazones. Las palabras afirmativas que siguen a la escucha activa pueden sanar corazones y construir amistades. Cuando nos “concentramos en la comprensión”, responderemos a nuestros amigos con sabiduría y aliento, que construye amistades y cambia la cultura en nuestras escuelas. 

 

¡S.A.B.E.R escuchar!

S- Silenciar: Apagar el ruido externo de los medios crea un espacio para concentrarse en silenciar las conversaciones internas que ocurren en nuestras propias mentes. 

A—Aceptar: La escucha activa es una forma de aceptar el regalo que otros comparten. Seamos amigos que aceptan el regalo de las historias ajenas, recibiéndolas con amabilidad y respeto.

B- Basar: Basemos nuestra escucha activa en el respeto hacía la persona que nos está hablando y compartiendo su historia.

E—Embarcar: Esté presente en las conversaciones, escuchando activamente con todo su cuerpo. Cuando sea apropiado, embarquese, participe y haga preguntas. Practique la paciencia y espere su turno para hablar y tenga cuidado de no interrumpir.

R—Responder: Responder escuchando con todo nuestro cuerpo, comunica que estamos comprometidos, que nos importa y que estamos escuchando.

 

HAGA PREGUNTAS INTELIGENTES ///

La próxima vez que tenga los ojos pegados a una pantalla y comience a desconectarse del mundo que lo rodea, considere hacer una pausa y hacerse estas preguntas útiles para practicar las habilidades de autoconciencia y conciencia social en su hogar:

> ¿Qué está pasando a mi alrededor?

> ¿Quién está presente en el cuarto de quien debo estar al tanto?

> ¿Necesito prestarles atención?

 

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October Catchphrase

Ubuntu: I Am Because We Are!

Dear Parents,

We have begun our third year of Friendzy with this month's catchphrase "Ubuntu." Ubuntu is a Zulu word that translates to "I am because we are." It is a way of living in community with each other, recognizing that our familes, school and communities are stronger and richer when we share our talents and goodness with each other.

Our Scripture verses for the month remind us that we are given many gifts to share and Jesus' prayer for us is that we will all be one. 

COMMUNITY IS KEY—UBUNTU. As a class (and as families) we can accomplish more together as a community than any of us could alone. God designed us to exist in community together. It is key to flourishing individually and collectively.

“My prayer is not for them alone. I pray also for those who will believe in me

through their message, that all of them may be one.” John 17:20-21a

1. We are all connected and we each thrive individually when we thrive collectively. When one person wins, we all win. When one person is sad or worried, we all feel the sadness and worry.

 

2. There is only one you. You play a very important role in humanity. You have specific and unique traits and strengths that make you who you are. You are important to people.

 

3. We need each other. Each person has a role to play in life. Our family, friends/peers, and even pets are really important to us because they are special to us. They make us who we are! Together we can do more than we could on our own.

 

4. Community is key. I am who I am because you are who you are. I need you to be you so I can be me. We need each other to be complete. 

FRIENDZY IN ACTION
In this lesson, students will explore both self-awareness and social awareness. Self-awareness involves looking inward to learn about and understand yourself; social awareness is looking outward to learn about and appreciate others. This unit explores these two key components of social-emotional learning through the concept of Ubuntu.
 

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Queridos Padres, 
Vivimos en un clima y cultura donde los estudiantes están más conectados tecnológicamente, pero socialmente más desconectados que nunca. Esto está contribuyendo a niveles más altos de ansiedad, depresión y desafíos relacionales. Agregue el COVID-19, levantamiento racial, aprendizaje remoto y más, y el hecho es que la mayoría de los estudiantes sienten el peso de este momento cultural.

Los estudiantes anhelan la conexión; anhelan la amistad. Este año continuamos equipando proactivamente a los estudiantes con habilidades para construir relaciones sólidas con un plan de estudios de Aprendizaje Social y Emocional (ASE) basado en la biblia, llamado Friendzy.  Cada semana su estudiante aprenderá el diseño de Dios para las relaciones saludables y se le presentarán las competencias y habilidades básicas que desarrollan la autoconciencia, autogestión, la toma de decisiones responsable, la conciencia social y las herramientas para las relaciones. Las relaciones más fuertes conducen a comunidades más fuertes.

La investigación ha demostrado que al combinar “ASE” con el desarrollo académico, mejora el rendimiento académico, las actitudes, las relaciones con los compañeros y reduce los desafíos de comportamiento, la depresión, ansiedad y el aislamiento social. Este tipo de aprendizaje continuará mejorando la cultura de nuestro campus, beneficiará a sus estudiantes y a nuestras comunidades de por vida.

Tendrá la oportunidad de interactuar con su estudiante en temas de Friendzy a través de actualizaciones mensuales por correo electrónico de Friendzy, debates con los padres en los libros de trabajo de los estudiantes de Friendzy, y divertidas tarjetas de conversación que serán enviadas a casa (similar a los temas de mesa).

COMENZANDO FUERTE 
Damos inicio a nuestra primera Unidad Friendzy. Durante todo el mes, discutiremos la idea de que UBUNTU–SOY PORQUE SOMOS. Como clase (y como familia) podemos lograr más juntos como comunidad que cualquiera de nosotros solos. Dios nos diseñó para existir en comunidad juntos. Esa es la clave para prosperar individual y colectivamente. La Frase Clave de este mes y el versículo clave están mencionados abajo.

Juan 17:20-21a
“Mi oración no es solo para ellos. Ruego también por los que creerán en mí por su mensaje, para que todos ellos sean uno.”

Es importante para los estudiantes aprender sobre otras culturas y costumbres para ayudarlos a apreciar la diversidad y darles la oportunidad de interactuar y comprender otras culturas. En esta lección, los estudiantes explorarán tanto la autoconciencia como la conciencia social. La autoconciencia implica mirar hacia adentro para aprender y comprenderse uno mismo. La conciencia social es mirar hacía afuera para aprender y apreciar a los demás. Esta unidad explora esos dos componentes claves del aprendizaje social y emocional a través del concepto de Ubuntu.

 

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                                               2021-2022 School Year










 

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St. Joseph Catholic School will leanring social emotional skills again this year with the help of the Friendzy social-emotional learning program. This interactive program, designed specifically for Catholic elementary school students, complements our social-emotional learning curriculum which explores the ways in which our Catholic faith, actions, and prayer help our students to develop strong social skills and deeper relationships with God and each other. We will continue to learn about Catholic virtues and saints each month in our counseling classes; and we will also work on building healthy relationships, developing empathy and strengthening our school community.

Friendzy will once again be taught by Mrs. Henry during weekly classroom counseling lessons. Social emotional skills will be reinforced and modeled with the support of faculty, staff and parents!
 

As part of this program, all SJS students will receive a student workbook that will be used in class. Parents will receive updates about each lesson and suggestions for ways to support social skills development at home. That information can be found on this page.

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            May Catchphrase: I Am for You!

Dear Parents, 

This month we will be diving into the last Friendzy unit before sending the students out for the summer! This year students learned how to create and maintain healthy friendships through Friendzy. And we know friendships take work -  this last month we are teaching students what it means when we say the phrase I AM FOR YOU and how to live it out in order to be a supportive friend.

Catchphrase (main point for students to catch on to):
  I Am For You

Key Verse (Biblical anchor points):
  Hebrews 10:24 (NLT) “Let us think of ways to motivate one another to acts of love
  and good works.”

Galatians 6:2
“Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.”

Continue the Conversation at Home: 

1. I am for you. Jesus asks us to help carry each other’s burdens. We are not meant to do life alone, but help each other out when life is hard. Part of being a good friend and a Christ follower means we carry each other’s burdens;we help each other when things are hard. It can also mean that we walk through the hard times by their side. We stay in the friendship and do our best to help and support them. 
2. Seek to understand how others are feeling. When you understand other people’s stories, it will become clear how you can help. Ask questions and listen when they talk.
3. Practice empathy. Empathy is the ability to understand how someone else  is feeling. To practice empathy you have to put yourself in the person’s shoes. How might they be feeling? What might they be thinking? Practicing empathy helps us connect to others.
4. Take Action. Compassion is empathy in action. Encourage them with your words. Pray for them. Ask how you can help. Offer them what you can.

I GET BY WITH A LITTLE HELP FROM MY FRIENDS
We live in a culture of independence, blaze your own trail, and get it done by your own strength. Yet God designed us to need each other. We are to help carry each other's burdens - this means we help others and we ask others for help when we need it. Share with your student a time you asked for help or should have asked for help but did not. 

Queridos Padres, 

Esto es todo /// este mes vamos a ser SD en la Última unidad Friendzy antes de enviar a los estudiantes para el verano! Este año los estudiantes aprendieron cómo crear y mantener amistades saludables a través de la amistad. Y sabemos que las amistades toman trabajo - - - este último mes estamos enseñando a los estudiantes lo que significa cuando decimos la frase YO soy PARA TI y cómo vivirla para ser un amigo solidario.

Eslogan:
Soy para TI

Versículo clave:
Hebreos 10:24 (NLT)
"Pensemos en maneras de motivarnos unos a otros a actos de amor y buenas obras.”

Gálatas 6: 2
"Cargas los unos con los otros las cargas, y así cumpliréis la ley de Cristo.”

Aquí hay maneras de Continuar la Subir hablando a través de los puntos clave de esta unidad: 

1. Soy para ti. Jesús nos pide que ayudemos a llevar las cargas de los demás. No estamos destinados a hacer la vida solos, sino ayudarnos unos a otros cuando la vida es difícil. Parte de ser un buen amigo y un seguidor de Cristo significa que cargamos las cargas de los demás;nos ayudamos unos a otros cuando las cosas son difíciles. También puede significar que caminamos a través de los tiempos difíciles a su lado. Nos quedamos en la amistad y hacemos todo lo posible para ayudarlos y apoyarlos. 
2. Trata de entender cómo se sienten los demás. Cuando usted entiende las historias de otras personas, se convertirá en claro cómo puede ayudar. Hacer preguntas y escuchar cuando hablan.
3. Practica la empatía. La empatía es la capacidad de entender cómo se siente alguien más. Para practicar la empatía tienes que ponerte en los zapatos de la persona. ¿Cómo podrían sentirse? ¿Qué podrían estar pensando? Practicar la empatía nos ayuda a conectarnos con los demás.
4. Actuar. La compasión es empatía en acción. Anímalos con tus palabras. Reza por ellos. Pregunte cómo puede ayudar. Ofréceles lo que puedas.

Llegó CON UN POCO de AYUDA DE MIS AMIGOS / / / vivimos en una cultura de independencia, blaze tu propio camino, y lo hace por su propia fuerza. Sin embargo, Dios nos diseñó para necesitar unos a otros. Debemos ayudarnos unos a otros a llevar cargas -- esto significa que ayudamos a otros y pedimos ayuda a otros cuando la necesitamos. Comparta con su estudiante el tiempo que pidió ayuda o que haber pedido ayuda pero no lo hizo. 

Dear Parents, 

This month our Friendzy unit seven teaches the students how to Stop The Gossip. We will discuss and dive into God’s Word to discover how destructive gossip and rumors can be in friendships.

Catchphrase (main point for students to catch on to):
  Stop The Gossip

Key Verse (Biblical anchor points):
  Proverbs 26:20
  “Without wood a fire goes out; without gossip quarrel dies down.”

Proverbs 21:23
  “Watch your tongue and keep your mouth shut, and you will stay out of trouble.” (NLT)

Continue the Conversation at home: 

1. Stop the gossip, it’s hurtful. Gossip hurts like fire burns. In the Bible gossip is compared to a fire. It tells us that our quarreling will continue as long as we keep adding wood to the fire. As long as we keep gossiping and fighting, disagreement and hurt will continue.
2. Practice T.H.I.N.K. -ing before speaking. Practice self-awareness by asking yourself the questions associated with the acrostic T.H.I.N.K. Doing so will help to stop the gossip before it starts. 
3. Be bold and ask a question. When we practice courage in asking others the question “Why are you telling me this?” it communicates that you are not interested in engaging in gossip. Be bold and lead your friends in the direction of building connections that will last - one built on trust instead of gossip. 
4. Build trust. Our actions make a difference. Think of what our school, our playgrounds, our classroom would be like if instead of building weak connections around gossip, we built strong connections around trust. In choosing to share your own story, instead of the stories of others, you are building strong connections in your friendships that will last for years to come.  

Queridos Padres, 

Este MES /// a medida que se acerca el final del año escolar, la unidad siete enseña a los estudiantes cómo Detener el Chisme. Discutiremos y nos sumergimos en la Palabra de Dios para descubrir cuán destructivos chismes y rumores pueden ser en amistades.

Eslogan (principal punto para que los estudiantes se acerquen):
Deja de cotillear.

Versículo clave (puntos de anclaje Bíblicos):
Proverbios 26: 20
"Sin leña se apaga el fuego; sin chismes se apaga la riña.”

Proverbios 21: 23
"Cuida tu lengua y mantén tu boca cerrada, y no te meterás en problemas."(NLT)

Continúe la Subir discutiendo estos puntos clave con su estudiante: 

1. Deja de cotillear, es hiriente. El chisme duele como el fuego. En la Biblia los chismes son comparados con un fuego. Nos dice que nuestra productividad continuará mientras sigamos agregando leña al fuego. Mientras sigamos cotilleando y luchando, el desacuerdo y el dolor continuarán.
2. Sé valiente y haz una pregunta. Cuando determinamos el valor de hacer a otros la pregunta "¿Por qué me estás diciendo esto?"comunica que usted no está interesado en participar en los chismes. Sea audaz y conduzca a sus amigos en la dirección de la construcción de conexiones que durarán-uno construido sobre la confianza en lugar de chismes. 
3. Construir confianza. Nuestras acciones marcan la diferencia. Piensa en cómo sería nuestra escuela, nuestros patios de recreo, nuestra clase si en lugar de construir conexiones débiles alrededor de los chismes, construyeramos fuertes conexiones alrededor de la confianza. Al optar por compartir su propia historia, en lugar de las historias de otros, están construyendo fuertes conexiones en sus amistades que durarán por años.  

Dear Parents, 

This month in Friendzy we are talking about the  beauty found in the different ways God has made each and every one of us. Our theme is “I Get to Be Me, You Get to Be You,” We celebrate the fact that God made all of us unique for a reason and that our differences make us stronger!

Catchphrase (main point for students to catch on to):
  I Get to Be Me, You Get to Be You

Key Verse (Biblical anchor points):
  1 Corinthians 12:18-19 
  “But our bodies have many parts, and God has put each part just where he wants it.
  How strange a body would be if it had only one part!” (NLT)

1 Corinthians 12:26
“If one part suffers, all the parts suffer with it, and if one part is honored, all the parts are glad.” (NLT)

Main Points:
Encourage your child to recognize their strengths this month. 
Continue the Conversation at Home:

1. We are designed to be different. Our differences make us a stronger classroom. What one person is good at, another is not. We need each other and are better together.
2. Celebrate your strengths. There is no one else in the world just like you. You are the only person able to fulfill the potential of your life. Stop and consider your strengths, what you are good at. You get to be you!
3. Celebrate your friends’ strengths. Stop and consider what your friends are good at. Thank God for them. 
4. Stop comparing and competing. Comparison destroys friendships and teams. When we compare our skills and gifts to those of other we can encourage envy and unhealthy putdowns.

Queridos Padres, 

Durante este mes, los estudiantes descubrirán que la belleza se encuentra en las diferentes maneras que Dios ha hecho a cada uno de nosotros. Al final de esta unidad los estudiantes verán cómo nos hizo únicos por una razón y que nuestras potencial nos hacen más fuertes!

Eslogan (principal punto para que los estudiantes se acerquen):
Yo Soy Yo, Tú Eres Tú

Versículo clave (puntos de anclaje Bíblicos):
1 Corintios 12: 18-19 
"Pero nuestros cuerpos tienen muchas partes, y Dios ha puesto cada una de ellas justo donde él quiere. ¡Qué extraño sería un cuerpo si sólo tuviera una parte!"(NLT)

1 Corintios 12: 26
"Si una parte sufre, todas las partes sufren con ella, y si una parte es honrada, todas las partes se alegran."(NLT)

Continuar la Subir en casa este mes: 

1. Estamos diseñados para ser diferentes. Nuestras potencial nos hacen una clase más fuerte. En lo que una persona es buena, otra no lo es. Nos necesitamos y estamos mejor juntos.
2. Celebra tus fortalezas. No hay nadie más en el mundo como tú. Eres la única persona capaz de realizar las diferencias de tu vida. Detente y considera tus fortalezas, en lo que eres bueno. ¡Tienes que ser tú!
3. Celebra las fortalezas de tus amigos. Detente y considera en lo que tus amigos son buenos. Gracias a Dios por ellos. 
4. Deja de comparar y competir. La comparación destruye amistades y equipos. Cuando nos comparamos y competimos unos con otros, todos pierden. 

Dear Parents, 

This month’s Friendzy unit is titled I Am Brave. During this unit we will be discussing what it looks like to be brave when facing challenges in life. We also will be teaching the students what it means to have courage.

Catchphrase (main point for students to catch on to):
 I Am Brave

Key Verse (Biblical anchor points):
1 Corinthians 16:13
  “Be on your guard; stand firm in the faith; be courageous; be strong.”

 Joshua 1:9
 “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go.”

From the outside bravery may look bold and confident, however inside most brave people still feel a little scared. Talk about what Bravery means to you and how you see your student showing bravery. 

Here are the main points of this unit:

1. Bravery is a choice. When we are afraid, when we fear, we have a choice. People either let the fear of failure stop them from pushing through OR they choose to be brave. Bravery doesn’t mean that you aren’t still a bit scared; it just means you choose to keep going. Even small acts of bravery develop our character and strengthen us to be who God calls us to be.
2. Bravery has a domino effect. Standing firm in what is right is vitally important and requires us to be brave. When we choose to be brave it strengthens us and those around us.
3. Don’t make decisions out of fear. By focusing on our fear, we give it power to keep us from standing firm. Fear of failure can keep us from doing the right thing.
4. Courage helps us overcome big and small challenges. Being brave isn’t always easy. Failure is a fear for all of us. But the ability to pick ourselves up and try again shows true courage and develops the habit of never giving up.

HOW TO ENCOURAGE BRAVERY: It can be overwhelming at any age to face fear of failure and be brave. One way you can support your student is by reframing failure as an opportunity for growth. When failure is viewed as positive,  it bolsters your students' confidence to be brave and try new things even if they may fail. Share with your student a time when you failed but you learned a lot in the process and were stronger and wiser in the end.

Queridos Padres, 

La unidad de este mes se llama "soy Valiente". Durante esta unidad estaremos discutiendo lo que parece ser valiente al enfrentar circunstancias desafiantes en la vida. También enseñaremos a los estudiantes lo que significa tener agallas. 

Eslogan (principal punto para que los estudiantes se acerquen)
Soy Valiente.

Versículo clave (puntos de anclaje Bíblicos): 1 Corintios 16: 13
"Estar en guardia; permaneced firmes en la fe; sean valientes; ser fuerte.”

Josué 1: 9
"¿ No os lo he mandado yo? Sé fuerte y valiente. No temas, no te desanimes, porque el SEÑOR tu Dios estará contigo dondequiera que vayas.”

Creemos que habrá muchas conversaciones interesantes en torno a la idea de Valentía y valentía. Desde el exterior valentía puede parecer audaz y seguro, sin embargo, dentro de la mayoría de las personas valientes todavía se sienten un poco asustado. Hable sobre lo que la Valentía significa para usted y cómo ve a su estudiante exhibiendo valentía. Continuar la Subir en casa; aquí están los puntos principales de esta unidad:

1. La valentía es una elección. Cuando tenemos miedo, cuando tenemos miedo, tenemos una opción. La gente deja que el miedo al fracaso les impida avanzar O eligen ser valientes. Valentía no significa que usted todavía no está un poco asustado; sólo significa que usted decide seguir adelante. Incluso pequeños actos de valentía desarrollan nuestro carácter y nos fortalecen para ser lo que Dios nos llama a ser.
2. La valentía tiene un efecto dominó. Mantenernos rasgos en lo que es correcto es de vital importancia y requiere que seamos valientes. Cuando elegimos ser valientes nos fortalece a nosotros y a los que nos rodean.
3. No tomes decisiones por miedo. Al enfocarnos en nuestro miedo, le damos el poder de mantenernos rasgos. El miedo al fracaso puede evitar que hagamos lo correcto.
4. Grit nos ayuda a superar retos grandes y pequeños. Ser valiente no siempre es fácil. El fracaso es un temor para todos nosotros. Pero la habilidad de levantarnos e intentarlo de nuevo muestra verdadera valentía y desarrolla el hábito de nunca rendirse.

Cómo ALENTAR la VALENTÍA: puede ser abrumador a cualquier edad enfrentar el miedo al fracaso y ser valiente. Una forma en que usted puede apoyar a su estudiante es reformulando el fracaso como una oportunidad para el crecimiento. Cuando el fracaso se ve como positivo, refuerza la confianza de sus estudiantes para ser valiente y probar cosas nuevas, incluso si pueden fallar. Comparte con tu estudiante un momento en el que fallaste pero aprendiste mucho en el proceso y al final fuiste más fuerte y más sabia.

January Catchphrase: I Will Respond, Not React!





 

This month's Friendzy unit is about being responsible for our how we react to the events of our lives each day and the feelings that come with them. Students will learn that it is their responsibility to control how they respond in stressful and emotional situations. They will also learn about the tools that help them to respond in positive, helpful ways. This type of learning is reinforced throught the school day; developing tools to help us respond to challenges is a lifelong process. Our students are working to develop the tools that can help them develop resilience, flexiblity and emotional regulation.

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Friendzy at Home

Dear Parents,  

This unit gives ample opportunity to talk through the challenge of responding instead of reacting. Emotions are good and helpful and give us the ability to recognize when we need to listen to them and not let them rule over us! 

 

Continue the Conversation at home with your student. Here are the main points of this unit: 
 

1. Feelings and emotions are helpful indicators. Feelings and emotions are good gifts from God. We can glorify Him with our feelings and emotions
2. Listen to your body. Our body can give us “warning signs” to help us know how we are feeling inside. Paying attention to our warning signs can help us make the right decision.
3. Don’t let feelings and emotions R.U.L.E. over you! If we feel like our feelings and emotions are getting out of control, remember they are not out boss! Instead remember the acronym R.U.L.E. (Recognize, Understand, Label, and Express)  and know that with God, we can respond instead of react in every situation.

  

Key Verses :

James 1:19-20

“My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.”

Genesis 4:7

“But if you do not do what is right, sin is crouching at your door; it desires to have you, but you must rule over it.”

One way to help your child respond instead of react is to help them identify their “warning signs”. When we are angry or upset our body reacts with our emotions. Breathing can change, muscles can become tight, hands turn into fists, etc. Pay attention to your child’s warning signs to help remind them to not let their emotions R.U.L.E. over them!

 

GOD’S PLAN IS BETTER
God knows what is best for us. As it says in one of our key verses, James 1:19-20, we should be quick to listen and slow to anger. A great way to remember this is to STOP. PRAY. WALK AWAY. Doing these three steps will help them choose to respond best to the situation and truly live out James 1:19-20. 

 

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Friendzy en Casa

Queridos Padres, 

 

Esta unidad brinda una amplia oportunidad para hablar sobre el desafío de responder en lugar de reaccionar. Las emociones son buenas y útiles y nos dan la capacidad de reconocer cuando necesitamos escucharlas y no dejar que nos dominen.  Continúe la Subir en casa con su estudiante. Aquí están los puntos principales de esta unidad: 

 

1. Los sentimientos y las emociones son indicadores útiles. Los sentimientos y las emociones son buenos regalos de Dios. Podemos glorificarlo con nuestros sentimientos y emociones
2. Escucha a tu cuerpo. Nuestro cuerpo puede darnos "señales de advertencia" para ayudarnos a saber cómo nos sentimos en el interior. Prestar atención a nuestras señales de advertencia puede ayudarnos a tomar la decisión correcta.
3. ¡No dejes que los sentimientos y las emociones te dominen! Si sentimos que nuestros sentimientos y emociones se están saliendo de control, x ¡ellos no son los jefes! En su lugar x para Reconocer, Entender, Etiquetar, y expresar sus emociones y saber que con Dios, podemos responder en lugar de reaccionar en cada situación.

 

Versículo clave (puntos de anclaje Bíblicos): 

Santiago 1:19-20

"Mis queridos hermanos y hermanas, tomen nota de esto: todos deben ser rápidos para escuchar, lentos para hablar y lentos para enojarse, porque la ira humana no produce la justicia que Dios desea.” 

Génesis 4: 7b
"Pero si no hacéis lo que es justo, el pecado está a vuestras puertas; quiere teneros a vosotros, pero debéis dominarlo.”

UNA manera de ayudar a su hijo a responder en lugar de reaccionar es ayudarlo a identificar sus "señales de advertencia". Cuando estamos enojados o molestos nuestro cuerpo reacciona con nuestras emociones. La respiración puede cambiar, los músculos pueden convertirse en resistencia, las manos se convierten en puños, etc. ¡Preste atención a las señales de advertencia de su hijo para ayudarle a recordar que no dejen que sus emociones se apoderen de ellas! 

Dios sabe lo que es mejor para nosotros. Como dice en uno de nuestros versículos claves, Santiago 1:19-20, debemos ser rápidos para escuchar y tardo para la ira. Una gran manera de hacer esto es PARAR. ORAR. VETE. Hacer estos tres pasos les ayudará a elegir responder mejor a la situación y realmente vivir fuera de Santiago 1: 19-20.  

Compartir un momento en el que tu estudiante decidió no dejar que sus emociones dominan sobre ellos y respondió en lugar de reaccionar!

 

December Catchphrase: I Am Known!













 

Dear Parents, 

Here is some additional information about this month’s unit to help you “keep the conversation going,” at home:

Psalm 139:1-4

“You have searched me, Lord, and you know me. You know when I sit and when I rise; you perceive my thoughts from afar. You discern my going out and my lying down; you are familiar with all my ways. Before a word is on my tongue you, Lord, know it completely.”

1. God knows you. We are not a number or nameless person. God knows the stories of our lives even before we are born.. He knows your story and he loves you. There is nothing you can do to make Him love you less. He loves you because He loves you.
2. Know your story. It’s important that we know our own stories. Understanding  our own stories helps us know who we are. God is going to work through every part of your story to grow and strengthen you.
3. Know other people’s stories. Our stories teach us about ourselves and about each other. WHen we know each other’s stories, it helps us to be kind to each other, celebrate our differences and know how to help and support each other. We want to be in the kind of class where every one of us is known.

EVERYONE IS A STORYTELLER /// Just as we are teaching the students to share their stories, we want you as parents to share yours as well! During dinner or on your way to a sporting event ask about your child’s story and then share your own! Doing this will create a deeper connection for your family and put what they are learning in school into their home environment! 

GOD’S LOVE IS UNCONDITIONAL /// Because God wrote our stories, He knows every single bump, mistake, failure, and loss along the way. Regardless of knowing all of our weak moments God loves us anyway. There is nothing we need to prove to him or level of perfection we need to reach, we are KNOWN and we are loved unconditionally.

Queridos Padres, 

Salmo 139:1-4

"Me has escudriñado, Señor, y me conoces. Sabes cuando me siento y cuando me levanto; percibes mis pensamientos desde lejos. Usted discernir mi salida y mi reposo; está familiarizado con todos mis caminos. Antes de que una palabra esté en mi lengua tú, Señor, lo sabes completamente.”

1. Dios te conoce. No somos un número o una persona sin nombre. Dios conoce las historias de nuestras vidas incluso antes de que se conviertan . Conoce tu historia y te quiere. No hay nada que puedas hacer para que te ame menos. Te ama porque te ama.
2. Conoce tu historia. Es importante que conozcamos nuestras propias historias. Entender nuestras propias historias nos ayuda a saber quiénes somos. Dios va a trabajar a través de cada parte de tu historia para crecer y fortalecerse.
3. Conocer las historias de otras personas. Nuestras historias nos enseñan acerca de nosotros mismos y acerca de los demás. Cuando conocemos las historias del otro, nos ayuda a ser amables el uno con el otro, celebrar nuestras potencial y saber cómo ayudarnos y apoyarnos el uno al otro. Queremos estar en el tipo de clase donde cada uno de nosotros es conocido.

TODO el mundo es un NARRADOR /// al igual que estamos enseñando a los estudiantes a compartir sus historias, queremos que ustedes como padres compartan la suya también! Durante la cena o de camino a un evento deportivo, pregunte sobre la historia de su hijo y luego comparta la suya. ¡Hacer esto creará una conexión más profunda para tu familia y pondrá lo que están aprendiendo en la escuela en su ambiente hogareño! 

El AMOR de DIOS es INCONDICIONAL porque Dios escribió nuestras historias, él conoce cada bache, error, fracaso, y pérdida a lo largo del camino. A pesar de conocer todos nuestros momentos débiles Dios nos ama de todos modos. No hay nada que necesitemos demostrarle a él o al nivel de perfección que necesitemos alcanzar, somos CONOCIDOS y somos amados incondicionalmente.

 

This November, we will be learning the difference between a fixed and a growth mindset. The growth mindset that we want to adopt is one of positive thoughts and ideas--- a way of seeing challenges as stepping stones, not stumbling blocks. Our Friendzy catchphrase " I Can Do It" reminds us that by being open-minded and hopeful we can accomplish many things. Our Catholic faith teaches us that God believes in us and wants us to keep trying even when we fail. We remind ourselves and each other that we learn much from our mistakes and that each time we try something hard, we grow even more.We can also support each other by using encouraging words!

Our Key Bible Verses are:

Romans 8:28: “ And we know that God causes everything to work together  for the good of those who love God.” (NLT)

Romans 12:2:  “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.”

We encourage you to Continue the Friendzy Conversation at home:

1. We can decide to have a growth mindset. Instead of telling ourselves “I can’t” we can say: “I can do it!”
2. We can develop and grow our growth mindset. As we take on challenges and work through struggle, we increase our growth mindset. God’s promise is that He will work all things together for good. This gives us hope, peace, and determination because of our faith, not in ourselves, but in Him! 
3. Who we are today does not define who we will be tomorrow. God gives us the power to transform. We can change, we can learn, and we can grow!

We have to look at each challenge as an opportunity to grow our minds just like we would grow our muscles during a workout. It isn’t easy and at times can be exhausting, but the more we push through the hard parts of life the more we grow! So we challenge you to challenge yourself and your child to say, “I Can Do It!”

Queridos Padres, 

Este MES /// estamos en la segunda unidad del Curriculum Friendzy! ¡El tiempo vuela cuando te estás divirtiendo! Durante este tiempo estamos enseñando a los estudiantes la frase " ¡puedo hacerlo!" Vamos a explorar las diferencias entre una parte fija y una MENTALIDAD de CRECIMIENTO y, a continuación, determinar cómo desarrollar y cultivar una mentalidad de crecimiento.

Eslogan (principal punto para que los estudiantes se acerquen):

¡Puedo Hacerlo!

Versículos llaves (puntos de anclaje Bíblicos):
Romanos 8: 28: "y sabemos que Dios hace que todo actúe juntamente para el bien de los que aman a Dios."(NLT)

Romanos 12:2 "no os conforméis a este mundo, sino transformaos mediante la renovación de vuestra mente.”

1. Podemos decidir tener una mentalidad de crecimiento. En vez de decirnos " no puedo "podemos decir:" ¡puedo hacerlo!”
2. Podemos desarrollar y hacer crecer nuestra mentalidad de crecimiento. A medida que asumimos retos y juzgar a través de la lucha, aumentamos nuestra mentalidad de crecimiento. La promesa de Dios es que él trabajará todas las cosas juntas para bien. Esto nos da esperanza, paz, y determinación a causa de nuestra fe, no en nosotros mismos, sino en Él. 
3. Lo que somos hoy no define lo que seremos mañana. Dios nos da el poder de transformar. ¡Podemos cambiar, podemos aprender y podemos crecer!

ABORDAR el CRECIMIENTO /// puede ser fácil de operar con una mentalidad fija, para nosotros y para los estudiantes. Tenemos que mirar cada desafío como una oportunidad para hacer crecer nuestras mentes al igual que crecerían nuestros músculos durante un entrenamiento. No es fácil y a veces puede ser agotador, pero cuanto más empujamos a través de las partes duras de la vida, más crecemos! Así que los retamos a desafiarse a ustedes mismos y a sus hijos a decir, " ¡yo Puedo hacerlo!”

October Catchphrase: Better Together!

We kick off our first Friendzy Unit in October. For a whole month we will be discussing the idea that we are Better Together. As a class (and as families) we can accomplish more together than any of us could alone. God designed and hardwired us to function better together, instead of alone.

Dear Parents,

Each week your student will learn God’s design for healthy relationships, and be introduced to core competencies and skills that develop self-awareness, self-management, responsible decision making, social awareness, and relationship tools. Stronger relationships lead to stronger communities .

Research has shown that by combining SEL with academic development it improves academic performance, attitudes, relationships with peers, and reduces behavior challenges, depression, anxiety, and social isolation. This type of learning will continue to improve our campus culture, benefit your students and our communities for a lifetime. 

You will have the opportunity  to engage with your student on Friendzy topics through monthly Friendzy updates on this page.

Over the next few weeks, the goal is for every student  to begin using the unit’s Catchphrase: “Better Together” in their everyday life. You can help them by beginning to use this in your conversations at home. This is the main point that students will catch onto and remember and use over and over. 

 

Queridos Padres,

Este año continuamos equipando proactivamente a los estudiantes con habilidades para construir relaciones fuertes con un currículo de aprendizaje social y emocional basado en la Biblia (SEL) llamado Friendzy. Cada semana su estudiante aprenderá el diseño de Dios para las relaciones saludables, y será introducido en las competencias y habilidades básicas que desarrollan la conciencia de sí mismo, la autogestión, la toma de decisiones responsable, la conciencia social, y las herramientas de relación. Las relaciones más fuertes conducen a comunidades más fuertes .

La investigación ha demostrado que cuando se combina SEL con el desarrollo académico mejora el rendimiento académico, las actitudes, las relaciones con los compañeros, y reduce el comportamiento desafiante, la depresión, la ansiedad y el aislamiento social. Este tipo de aprendizaje seguirá mejorando la cultura de nuestro campus, beneficiando a sus estudiantes y a nuestras comunidades a lo largo de la vida. 

Arrancamos nuestra primera unidad Friendly. Durante todo el mes vamos a discutir la idea de que estamos Mejor Juntos. Como clase (y como familias) podemos lograr más juntos de lo que cualquiera de nosotros podría lograr por nuestra cuenta. Dios nos diseñó y dirigió para trabajar mejor juntos, en lugar de solos. El lema de este mes y los versículos claves se enumeran a continuación.

St. Joseph Catholic School is excited to announce the launch of a new school-wide program of social-emotional learning, called Friendzy.

This program will be implemented by our school counselors with the support of faculty, staff and parents!

The current global pandemic has highlighted the need for strong social skills and emotional management. Now more than ever our students need to be equipped to navigate the uncertainty in their lives with a deeper sense of faith and community. Social skills such as self-awareness, responsible decision-making, self-management and relationship-building are some of the tools that make this possible.

This new program, which begins in October, complements our current social-emotional learning curriculum which explores the ways in which our Catholic faith, faith-filled actions, and prayer help our students to develop strong social skills and deeper relationships with each other and God. As we continue to learn about Catholic virtues and saints each month we will also work on building healthy relationships, developing empathy and strengthening our school community.

As part of this program, each SJS student will receive a student workbook that will be used in class along with lessons led by our counselors. 

 

“Friendzy is a comprehensive program designed to change school culture by offering vital social emotional learning lessons (SEL) to proactively address aggressive behavior, reduce stress, equip with healthy relationship skills, and improve focus and academic performance, which will increase resiliency for success in school and in life.” Joy Roberts and Julie Widman, Friendzy founders

 

2020-2021 School Year



 

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May Catchphrase: Friendship is a Gift!



















 

April Catchphrase: I Am Valuable

Dear Parents,
This month our classroom guidance counseling lessons will look at how we are chosen by God and given wonderful, unique gifts. We will talk about what an incredible gift it is that Jesus chooses us!

“You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you so that you might go and bear fruit-fruit that will last-and so that whatever you ask in my name the Father will give you. .” John 15:16 (NLT) “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.” Galatians 5:22-23 (NLT)

Continue the Conversation at Home:
1. God uniquely made you, and you are valuable. Each and every person was created in the image of God. You have value, and the unique characteristics and gifts you possess were given to you by God, on purpose, so that you can fulfill His purposes for your life.
2." I am valuable and so are you!" Our cathcphrase this month reminds us that every person is valuable and that we need to treat each other accordingly.
2. Avoid comparing yourself with others. When you compare yourself with others you either are happy because you are better than them, or sad because you are not as good. This mindset hurts friendships.
3. Each person has been given unique strengths and gifts. The strengths that God has given to you may look different than your classmates and friends. Celebrate your differences. Your differences make you a stronger team.
4. When you recognize your value, you can recognize the value of others. It’s often easier to think about the things you wish you were better at. Today, stop to consider the things that you like about yourself. The reality that Jesus chooses us to be His friend helps us with every friendship challenge we encounter. 

THE MAIN POINT
Students who know they are valuable act and respond very differently than students who do not know their value and worth. Take some time over the next few weeks to remind your students that you value them. 

CHOSE TO SHARE 
What do you value about your student? We will be talking about our value and worth as a class and we hope that you will remind your child of all the wonderful gifts you see within them and those that they are beginning to develop each day!

 

March Catchphrase: Friends Forgive



Dear Parents,

This month we will be talking about forgiveness and how forgiveness is something we practice every day in our attitudes and in our relationships with each other. We will explore how to forgive one another, and how freeing forgiveness is.Our 2nd graders were able to experience how wonderful it can feel to be forgiven when had thier First Penance just a few weeks ago. 

Our catchphrase this month is "Friends Forgive." 

Continue the Conversation at home:
1. Friends forgive first. They know that the friendship they had with the person was important. The only way it can truly be repaired is if forgiveness is extended. When we choose not to forgive we could be losing a good friend forever.
2. Forgiveness is an attitude not just an action. You can decide that instead of holding grudges you’ll learn to automatically forgive.
3. Saying “I’m sorry” first isn’t weak. It takes strength to own and take responsibility when you’ve hurt someone.
4. Be supportive. Show support to others as they are rebuilding their friendships.

As adults, the way we model the act of forgiveness teaches just as much, if not more, than our words. Having decades of experience living on the earth and dealing with relational difficulties is time enough for us to know that forgiveness is not easy.
 

February Catchphrase: Watch My Words
 

Dear Parents,

This month we are beginning the 5th unit in our Friendzy curriculum. In class we have been talking about friendship, community and caring. We are practicing active listening, teamwork and building social skills. 

The students are listening, growing and exemplifying their learning in class as well as on the playground. We hope that you are seeing positive changes at home as well. The title of this month's unit is Watch My Words.

All month we will be talking about communcation and the power of our words to life each other up and model God's love in the way we speak to and about each other.
Some of the key ideas we will be discussing are embodied in this quote from Mahatma Ghandi: “Carefully watch your thoughts, for they become your words. Manage and watch your words, for they will become your actions. Consider and judge your actions, for they have become your habits. Acknowledge and watch your habits, for they shall become your values. Understand and embrace your values, for they become your destiny.”

There are moments in our lives where we all have opened our mouth and said words we wish we could retract. By modeling to your children how to course correct when a mistake is made, you are showing them the power of how to THINK before we speak.

 

January Catchphrase: Teamwork Makes The Dream Work



‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’ The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself. There is no commandment greater than these.” Mark 12:30-31 


In January, our counseling classes will be talking about teamwork. Our Friendzy focus for this month is "Teamwork Makes the Dream Work." We will reflect on what an incredible gift it is when we learn to work as a team and serve one another with our gifts! We are so much better together.


As a parent, the challenge you face is to have your nuclear family work together and to show love to one another and to work together towards a common goal. And the reality is that unless we first receive love FROM God, it is almost impossible to be able to love those around us, and this includes our children.

Try this at home: In family life it is easy to not notice the gifts that each member brings to the table because we are so familiar with each other and we spend so much time together. If we are not intentional, we can miss the amazing gift that each member of our family is to the team (family unit). In an effort to connect the teaching your students are learning at school and incorporate it into home life in a practical way, we suggest that one day this week you have time together as a family where each member is affirmed for the unique gifts they bring.

Take time to celebrate each other!

“God has given each of you a gift from his great variety of spiritual gifts. Use them well to serve one another.” 1 Peter 4:10 
 

December Catchphrase: You First

“Then make me truly happy by agreeing wholeheartedly with each other, loving one another, and working together with one mind and purpose. Don’t be selfish; don’t try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves. Don’t look out only for your own interests, but take an interest in others, too. You must have the same attitude that Christ Jesus had.”

Philippians 2:2-5 (NLT)
 

This month our students are learning the importance of considering the needs of others, not just their own needs and wants. God’s Word challenges us to not be selfish. Thinking of others first is a life skill that equips us for real and long-lasting relationships. It’s not that we can’t have needs, it’s that we need to consider the needs of others as well as our own.True JOY comes from practicing “You First”

One way to continue the conversation at home this month is by posing this simple question at the dinner table over a meal: “What are some ways that we can practice not being selfish around the house?” The responses to this question can open up meaningful and honest dialogue among members of your family. What a powerful opportunity for your child to share what they are learning, put it into practice, and see the positive effect it has in your home. When students learn friendships they learn it for life, and this includes the friendship they share with each member of your family. Over the next few weeks, we hope your student will begin to use this unit’s catchphrase: “You First”. This is the main point that we want the students to catch on to and use over.

“I alone cannot change the world, but I can cast a stone across the water to create many ripples.” St. Teresa of Calcutta

We will be talking about what it means to be "kind all the time" and how we can try to be a little kinder each day.

Our students will also learn about H.A.L.T. (Hungry, Angry, Lonely or Tired) and how it is hard to be our best selves when there is something going on physically that we need to address.


Ways to "Continue the Conversation" at home this month:
Discuss these ideas with your children:
1. A friend loves at all times. God’s Word calls us to love others all the time.
2. All means all. Loving friends when they are nice is easy. Loving friends who are annoying, or mean to you, or act differently than you is really hard.
3. Show love through your words. We show love by the words we say. Words matter and affect those around us. Choose words that reflect the love that is in your heart.
4. Show love through your actions. We’ve all heard the phrase “actions speak louder than words”. Our actions are the exclamation point to our words. Don’t just talk the talk - walk the walk!